A Rant and a Blog Break

A Rant and a Blog Break

Maybe I heard too many “Afwan”s  in response to “Shukran”s. Maybe I am old-fashioned, or too sensitive, or too linguistically picky, but I hate hearing, “No problem,” in response to, “Thank you.”

The best response is, and always has been, “You’re welcome.”

The meaning of, “You’re welcome,” is this: I am pleased to have helped you. I will be pleased to help you again. You have not inconvenienced me. You have given me a chance to serve you, and I am enriched.

Whether or not the sentiment true is irrelevant; good manners serve to ease the interactions between people who would inconvenience others, even slightly. Good manners serve to encourage cooperation so that needs are met efficiently. Good manners breed respect between people who fulfill their responsibilities toward others, regardless of how they fulfill them.

The meaning of, “No problem,” is: I encountered no problem in helping you, so you needn’t feel guilty in asking. Had I encountered a problem, I might not have helped you, and if I had, you would be in my debt.”

Now, which response endears you to others? Which response opens the way for further interactions? Which response would you rather hear from others when you say, “Thank you.”?

Your mother has spoken! 🙂

Now, today I am going back up North to our cottage in the woods for the last time this year. I won’t have an Internet connection, so I’ll be busy doing writing, photography, walking in the woods, and sitting next to the fire in the evenings. See you next week!

About Marahm

At first glance, I may appear to be a middle-aged American woman with kids, grandkids, retired from a job in a hospital, gratefully relieved from the responsibilities that come with all of that. Behind the image, which is true enough, I am fairly unhinged from much of American mainstream living, having spent twelve years in Saudi Arabia, years that sprung me from societal and familial impositions, and narrow bands of truth. I have learned to embrace my identity as a seeker, an artist, and a writer. I study Arabic and Italian language, because I love them, and I love their people. I still dream of spending more time in the Middle East and Italy, though the dreaming now seems more real than the possibilities. I am a photographer. I write, and sometimes publish, flash memoir, and now a blog or two.
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7 Responses to A Rant and a Blog Break

  1. Umm Ibrahim says:

    Thanks ‘mum’! 😆 I will bear this in mind. :mrgeen:

    I am a bit late reading this and by now you should be enjoying your peace and relaxation, nevertheless have a lovely break and I hope you remember to take lots of nice photographs to share. 🙂

  2. Solace says:

    I must be honest, I am quilty of the no problem-response:-( Will think twice now;-)

  3. Shahrzad says:

    Waw, that should be a very peaceful place.. May you enjoy so much..

  4. ~W~ says:

    Enjoy your break 🙂

  5. Well, honestly, I just appreciate getting any kind of response at all. After living in South Florida for so many years, where many workers never even smiled or greeted me when I was up at the check out line, and the only words that came out of their mouths was how much I needed to pay them, getting a “No problem” would have been nice! I think parents have really dropped the ball in teaching manners and common courtesy to their kids, and that’s the problem.

  6. Hning says:

    I thought that 3afwan meant literally: “Pardon”, because we also say it when we’re about to say something rude, like, “3fawn, F*#K!!!”

    So the whole context of the phrase actually meant, “Please, I’m humbled to serve you and do not deserve your thanks.”

    …did that translate worse than the way you puddit?


  7. Marahm says:

    Thank you all for your comments. Yes, Hning, 3afwan can mean “pardon” in the sense of “excuse me”. It does not literally translate to, “You’re welcome,” but for my purposes in contrasting the polite reponse to, “Thank you,” it worked well.

    I had a wonderful four days at the cottage. The trees are starting to turn, and the air is cool and without too many insects. I took dozens of photos.

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